I found a recent article in the Atlantic fascinating (even though I found the opening quote unnecessary, and am not supportive of the culture of therapy). Hardship and discipline are good for our kids, and we shouldn’t protect them from these things.
“It’s like the way our body’s immune system develops,” he explained. “You have to be exposed to pathogens, or your body won’t know how to respond to an attack. Kids also need exposure to discomfort, failure, and struggle. I know parents who call up the school to complain if their kid doesn’t get to be in the school play or make the cut for the baseball team. I know of one kid who said that he didn’t like another kid in the carpool, so instead of having their child learn to tolerate the other kid, they offered to drive him to school themselves. By the time they’re teenagers, they have no experience with hardship. Civilization is about adapting to less-than-perfect situations, yet parents often have this instantaneous reaction to unpleasantness, which is ‘I can fix this.’”
We should get used to the fact that we don’t belong in this world, so that we can grow in our dependence upon the one who made this world and is fitting us and our children for the world to come, Lord willing.